The Most Common Reason Churches Enable Abusers and Oppress Victims

A Cry For Justice

Now you, brothers, like Isaac, are children of promise. But just as at that time he who was born according to the flesh persecuted him who was born according to the Spirit, so also it is now. (Galatians 4:28-29)

When we first began this blog some five years ago, we said that one of our primary purposes in this ministry was to educate pastors, elders, church members, counselors and others about the nature and tactics of abuse. Particularly in regard to how the abuser is hiding in churches, disguised as a sheep, all the while cruelly enslaving and abusing his victim. While that purpose still stands, the fact is that very few such people have been willing to open their eyes to this evil, learn about it, and stand with victims. The most amazing and overwhelmingly encouraging response to our blog has been from abuse victims. Especially abuse victims who are…

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Out of the Boat


By: Susan Bea Good

Psalm 16:8 “I keep my eyes always on the LordWith Him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” (NIV)

Two thousand years ago the disciple Peter recognized Jesus from the safety of a boat. Jesus was alone and walking out on the deep water. Peter could have waited for Jesus to arrive, along with the other disciples, but instead he asked to join Him. This was risky. Peter’s bold faith resulted in him being invited out of the boat.

I too asked Jesus if I could “get out of the boat.” For decades I’ve been praying that God would save my family. I asked God to include me in His spiritual work in the hearts of my loved ones. I was willing to suffer anything if God would save my husband and children. I was ignorant of the cost, but not anymore!

(Matthew 14:26-31) “Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw Him walking on the lake, they were terrified…(Peter said) ‘Lord, if it’s you…tell me to come to you on the water.’  ‘Come,’ He said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, ‘Lord, save me!’ Immediately Jesus reached out His hand and caught him…”

Peter’s friends were terrified. Peter was willing to be even more terrified! Jesus welcomed that willingness and rewarded His disciple with a partnership in His glory that the others missed.

When Peter kept his eyes on Jesus he walked with Him. When Peter took his eyes off Jesus, and focused on the danger, he began to sink.

You and I can ask to be involved in God’s work. We can ask to get out of the safety of the boat and walk with Jesus on the waters of this life. At times we may struggle to keep our eyes on the One who sustains our walk by faith. We may even feel ourselves sinking and overwhelmed with the power of the waves. Jesus promises He will never leave us alone. We can be sure that He will not let us drown in this life. He will reach out and catch us. If you ask to get out of the boat keep your eyes on Jesus!

“Turn your eyes upon Jesus,

look full in His wonderful face,

and the things of earth will grow strangely dim,

in the light of His glory and grace.”

This blogger writes to encourage faithful Christ-followers as they participate in God’s Big Picture. Adonai Eloheinu.

“Give Me Jesus” (Gokey)



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Standing for Righteousness


By: Susan Bea Good

Psalm 112:6 “Surely the righteous will never be shaken; they will be remembered forever.” (NIV)

This year I escaped from 39 years of abuse from a man who should have loved and cherished me. That era began as I thought I was escaping from 19 years of abuse from another who should have been my protector. The immediate result of exposing my husband was that I had to leave my church, my home, my dog, and a ministry. The ongoing result, which became excruciatingly clear on December 25, was that I’ve lost family-privileges with most of my loved ones, including seven young grandsons. This seems on the surface a very bad place to be. However, this morning, two days after Christmas, I awoke to God gently comforting me with the realization that I am actually in a very good place- standing for righteousness, not just today, but have been all my life!

It’s been suggested this year that my situation is similar to the biblical Job’s experiences with unjust suffering. However, Job did not have Scripture, or the indwelling Spirit of God to guide and comfort him during the trials God ordained. I do!

For many years, especially because I’ve had so many tumultuous ones, I’ve tried to objectively assess the year as it closes out. This year I am reviewing all of the years. Being forced to “start over,” as those who escape abuse must do, I’ve had to get a lawyer, file in the courts for a legal separation, find a place to live, purchase a vehicle, open a checking account, obtain a credit card, get a job, find a different church, make out my will, and learn who I can trust. These steps have brought me to the end of 2017 with the realization that God may be close to finishing my portion of honoring Him in this life. I do feel as though there will not be much time to suffer further, which is a great comfort. It’s also an encouragement to keep standing for righteousness for however much longer I’m here.

God has never left me without hope. He has always given me enough to survive. He has actually always given me enough to thrive, even when I was too young to understand. As an elementary age girl He gave me enough to stand alone if necessary in my school setting and at home. When left un-nurtured by parents He cultivated my soul. When abused and hated by my husband He always reminded me that I was loved and cared for by my Creator. That has been more than enough to sustain and strengthen me as a child of 8 years old until now as a 59 year old woman.

When God calls His children He does it from the beginning. He states in Scripture that His call began even before He made the foundations of this world. So, it should be no surprise when we realize that He has been preparing a specific journey through life for us. He has given each of His children a path to please Him and the strength to traverse that path to its completion.

I expect the new year to find me living outside of the physical reach of those who have chosen to harm me. Those include all who stayed “neutral,” which added terribly to my grief. I hope to stay healthy enough to continue coaching basketball, teaching Bible Club, traveling to Bolivia, sharing the Survive and Thrive workshop, and standing for righteousness until my last breath in this life.

This blog post is meant to encourage faithful Christ-followers to see God’s Big Picture and purpose to be a part of it. No doubt this particular one will enrage the self-righteous abusers I know. Adonai Elohenu!

Highly recommended resources for those suffering with abuse or hoping to advise one in that situation is: “A Cry for Justice” (Facebook page and book by Pastor Jeff Crippen and Anna Wood)

Book by Barbara Roberts: “Not Under Bondage”



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How Cowardice Enables Abusers

A Cry For Justice

The one who conquers will have this heritage, and I will be his God and he will be my son. But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:7-8)

No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you. Be strong and courageous, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land that I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to…

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Throwback Thursday ~ Bad Fruit, Diseased Trees, and the Authority of God’s Word

Michelle Lesley

Originally published October 14, 2016

bad-fruit-treesI hate having to warn women against false teachers. I really do. I would like nothing better than to write Bible studies all day long, but, like Jude said, sometimes contending for the faith is more urgent at the moment. Today, as it was in the New Testament church, false doctrine is rampant. You can hardly throw a rock out the sanctuary window without hitting a false teacher, particularly female false teachers.

Invariably, when I warn against a specific popular false teacher I get a few responses from disgruntled readers jumping to that teacher’s defense. (I understand where those feelings come from. I’ve had to hear hard, biblical truths about teachers I’ve followed, too. It’s no fun.) I tend to hear the same arguments over and over (which is one reason I wrote this article). But there’s one thing all of these arguments have…

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The narrow gate

At a time in my life when it is easy to throw stones at me I am clinging to God’s promises and looking hopefully for a miraculous outcome for all of this suffering. My focus has been directed at my immediate family, but today I am determined to pray for all those who may be observing my “fall” and wondering what could God have to do with that?!

One Hired Late In The Day

The many-few principle is consistently taught throughout the scriptures in regards to salvation.  

Jesus tells us in Matthew 22:14 “For many are called, but few are chosen.”  In Luke 13:23-24: And someone said to Him, “Lord, are there just a few who are being saved?” And He said to them, “Strive to enter through the narrow door; for many, I tell you, will seek to enter and will not be able.  The same concept of the narrow and wide gates are addressed by Jesus in Matthew 7:13-14, “Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it.  For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life and there are few who find it.”  

The most chilling example is found in Matthew 7:21-23  “Not everyone who…

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Throwback Thursday ~ Persecution in the Pew

Michelle Lesley

Originally published August 7, 2015persecution in the pew

Beheadings of Christians by ISIS. Crosses forcibly torn off churches by the Chinese government. Pastors imprisoned. Believers tortured for leaving Islam or sharing the gospel.

The treatment our brothers and sisters across the globe receive at the hands of pagans is nearly unfathomable. They are made to suffer – simply for claiming the name of Christ – by those who openly hate God and want nothing more than to stamp out Christianity.

This is how we, as the American church, have come to define persecution. Outsiders, non-Christians, and the government, all on the attack against the Bible, our faith, our practices, and other beliefs we have long held dear. It’s a correct definition, but it’s not a complete definition.

While we already see a “light” form of this type of persecution in the U.S. – mainly over the issue of homosexuality – there’s another kind…

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