By: Susan Bea Good
A memorial service is scheduled tomorrow for my Uncle Jack. He died last month at the age of 68, after a two year battle with kidney cancer. I saw him only one time in my adult life. He’s been a sort of legend in my family, and from what I’ve been told he was a legend in the medical community too.
My Uncle was among the first dozen men to receive sex reassignment surgery in the US. He underwent his radical physical changes over forty years ago. This was a shock to many, but I understand my grandparents were delighted!
Shock and delight continue to animate members of the extended family to this day. Few hold to a biblical stand that habitual sin should be acknowledged as such and rejected. Those who do are regularly subjected to the “Love the sinner-hate the sin” mantra. Most of my cousins, as well as my remaining Aunt, accepted and embraced the homosexuality of my Uncle. Like my grandparents, they have no problem with his moral corruption, and even celebrate his “courage.”
I was informed earlier this week that I was deemed unsuitable to escort my “delighted” Aunt to her brother’s funeral service tomorrow. You see I have a “pronoun problem.” I refuse to refer to my Uncle Jack as “Aunt Jackie.” I have always been willing to refer to him as “Jackie,” but I couldn’t go any further than that. For me it would be a lie, and condoning a life of unrepentant sin.
Now that my Uncle Jack has passed from this life all prayers for his repentance are finished. Until his death there had been a hope that God would bring him to a new life in Christ. That apparently did not happen.
There are others in my life for whom I hope. For them there will always be a desire to see a change which comes when God grants repentance. No matter how long it takes, as long as they are living, I won’t give up hope.
“For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret…” (2 Corinthians 7:10/ESV)
This blogger’s purpose is to encourage Christ-followers to see God’s Big Picture and be a part of it. Adonai Eloheinu!